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Drowners, Drifters, Surfers and Navigators…

Whether in career or life, when you gather a group of people together they will fall into one of four “life’s places”. Look any office environment, family unit or social group and you’ll find the members of that group will fall into one of four places; Drowners, Drifters, Surfers or Navigators. Try this exercise for yourself. On a piece of paper, write down the names of people (including yourself) who you share a common link with. (ie. your office, family or social group) Then read the following definitions and assign their “life’s place” beside each of the names that resonate best with the descriptor.

Drowners

  • On the ocean of life drowners are in lost at sea and sinking!
  • They define themselves by their limiting factors.
  • Their speech contains a never ending list of excuses: not enough money, education, geographical barriers or relationship opportunities etc, etc
  • Often sad and mournful, they see themselves as perpetual victims, one of the walking wounded in an army that never heals.
  • They struggle to get ahead and feel they just can’t ever get a break.
  • They’re treading water and it’s only a matter of time before they go under.

Drifters

  • On the ocean of life drifters define themselves by their circumstances.
  • Their speech contains an endless dialogue blaming external circumstances such as the state of the economy/industry, corporate management issues/ policies, their current relationship etc, etc.
  • They are pushed here and there by the winds and waves of chance.
  • In career, positions come and they go. They may drift into a position and just as a wave of success is about to elevate them to the next level they get sideswiped by life and thrown off course.
  • Drifters are adversely affected by changes in management, organizational structure and economic circumstances.

Surfers

  • On the ocean of life Surfers define themselves by their activities.
  • Their speech contains is a non stop dialogue about everything they have on the go. They keep busy being busy in work and at home.
  • They may serve on multiple committees, volunteer boards and organizations.
  • They are a networkers and professional visitors.
  • Riding the swells this way and that, they dream of the perfect wave.
  • Unfortunately all they ever do is dream. They are too busy to take action.
  • They may often relationship or job hop.
  • They tend to get bored easily thus as they move they maintain a constant lateral course.

Navigators

  • Navigators sail happily on the ocean of life and define themselves by their commitments.
  • When a navigator speaks you get a clear picture of their direction.
  • They know exactly what they’re trying to make happen and they’re willing to pay the price.
  • They are aware of their limiting factors and are zealous about clearing all obstacles that stand in their way especially when it is they.
  • Their ego is in check and they are humble to the idea that improvement starts with them.

Looking at your list of names, zero in on your name.

Yes, being the Navigator of your life should be your goal. Which “place” do you identify with?

I offer this viewpoint because it is important to pause in our busy lives to get perspective of ourselves, our lives and those around us. Whether we are Drowning, Drifting, Surfing or Navigating it is from this perspective that the true reality of our life will emerge. It is from this point that magical things will start to happen as we are able to begin to consciously make choices in our day to day life that will propel us forward.

Unworthiness: The Root of Disempowerment

By Duane Krip

Like a necklace of lead, conspiring to keep us weighted, shackled and tethered, feelings of unworthiness are the root of the darkness in our life. I now believe that unworthiness is at the core of most everything negative in both our careers and life! Having worked with people from across North America, from all walks of life, young and old, unworthiness keeps showing up in session after session I conduct.

Installed in us at such a young age, buried deep; we only see the surface behaviors in our day to day life.

I have to admit I had to ‘stare into the mouth of the lion’ when beliefs of my own unworthiness bubbled to the surface. I am happy to report I survived!

As I analyzed unworthiness, I noticed this disempowering belief was manifesting its self in behaviors found in 9 personality types. As you read these nine, think of all the time and energy each of these behaviors steal from our productivity and from our enjoyment of your life! Continue reading

The Truth about Criticism

By Duane Krip

Criticism in all its forms is like acid, raining down from the sky, burning through our outer skin burrowing and corroding its way to the very core of our being…it weakens our foundation, leaving us susceptible to complete collapse…

…but it doesn’t have to!

You can look at criticism as either flowing toward you or from you.

It is the basis of office politics where the maneuvering and jockeying resemble an episode of Survivor. Whether criticism is overly direct, subtle “ha-ha” comments…or in the form of office gossip, it is disruptive in so many ways in all organizations.

I recall one instance when a staff member went on a 15 minute rant around the office about my leather watch strap…vociferously proclaiming how “out of style” leather watch straps are.

Here’s the paradoxical truth about criticism.

When criticism flows toward you it’s not about you! It is a mirrored reflection of the internal turmoil of the criticizer. And when criticism rolls off your tongue directed at someone else, it’s a mirrored reflection of you…and your internal turmoil NOT the person you are criticizing!

When you look at the criticism of my leather watch strap from this perspective you can easily see that the critique was a commentary of that persons own insecurities. You can’t help but have empathy for them.

In The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz he states it beautifully when he says:

“Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.

Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication.

If someone gives you an opinion and says, “Hey, you look so fat,” don’t take it personally, because the truth is that this person is dealing with his or her own feelings, beliefs, and opinions. That person tried to send poison to you and if you take it personally, then you take that poison and it becomes yours.

I hope a light bulb of truth within you just flicked on because the implications of this on both your career and personal life are enormous! Consider the drain on your energy…the lost productivity…the derailment of focus when you allow someone else’s opinions or actions to tear at your foundation…or conversely, when you yourself engage in outward directed criticism of others.

Today, as you encounter criticism, whatever form that may be, try making a clear distinction between what people say and the meaning you give it. Flip it around so you see their words or actions as a reflection of their own internal strife.

When you do this, how does this new perspective change how you feel? Let me know. Leave a comment below.

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Are Rules Hindering Your Success?

By Duane Krip

Like a sea of bobble head dolls, I can feel a collective up and down head nod as you ponder this question…and most of you can easily bring to mind the rules of your company, bosses or industry that create unnecessary work, stymie your creativity or shackle progress.

We often feel constrained by rules in place in all levels of government; municipal, provincial and federal. Their rules potentially impede ease of progress, pull dollars out of your wallet or time out of your day. I could go on for pages about all the external rules we face every minute of every day that seemingly act as barriers to our growth, success, income and happiness…

…but these rules are NOT what really stands in our way! They are nothing more than a speed bump compared to the rock solid wall you create with your own internal self imposed rules. These internal rules are of your own creation and are devastating because they rarely align with your goals and aspirations. The most sinister part about these internal rules is that you are not aware of their incongruence with your goals and the resulting impedance of your progress. Continue reading

About Experiences

by Duane Krip

We are here in this life to experience! All experiences are about lessons and learning, both the pleasant and not so pleasant.

In our evolution of consciousness, we vitally need the experiences that we perceive as ‘not so pleasant’ so that the resulting wisdom allows us to experience true love, light and freedom.

With that in mind we should to watch with interest our life as if it were a play on a stage with the knowledge that we are also the writer of that play and have unlimited ability to write the next line of dialogue through the wisdom we just learned.

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This weeks contemplation…

Why Positive Thinking is not Enough

By Duane Krip
Using positive thinking alone is not enough to change your life or advance your career. There are Silent Saboteurs working to prevent you from achieving your goals of happiness and success.

Even with access to many helpful teachings from scores of self help gurus, the conscious choice to live life as a happier or successful person may still elude the most determined and committed of individuals.

What could be causing the block?

Bruce H. Lipton, in his book The Biology of Belief, quite rightly points out that using positive thinking alone may not be enough to change your life. Lipton points to the subconscious mind as the “locus of sabotaging memory tapes” that interfere with the newer behaviors being chosen or desired. Continue reading

This weeks contemplation…

What if Failure was IMPOSSIBLE… What would you be willing to Risk?

By Duane Krip

If failure was IMPOSSIBLE…what would you be willing to risk? That question was posed to a group of us at a workshop I recently attended. The unanimous answer from the room was, “Everything!” We went on to learn that ‘failure’ is nothing more than a concept of the mind; that failure is impossible because it doesn’t really exist!

An example: if you swing at a golf ball and it dribbles off the tee, you haven’t really failed, you’ve produced a result! The question in life isn’t whether you fail; the question is “what do you do with the results you produce? The instant you label yourself as having failed, you become the label you placed on yourself. Continue reading

The Shift to Authenticity

by Duane Krip

There is shift occurring in our world and it’s going to have a major impact on business of all sizes from the multi-national corporation to the independently owned mom and pop shop. My prediction is that businesses who have hidden themselves behind a curtain of marketing; who falsely create an image of what they want to be seen as; will fall to the side of the road as the new generation of business, steeped in authenticity, will rise to be the category killers of tomorrow. Continue reading

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